A part of my recent birthday, I decided that since I had realized the most valuable lessons I learned during the past twelve months, I would take some time to do a little more self discovery. I was expecting to uncover even more positive pearls of wisdom about myself that I did not know, and end my birthday weekend full of enthusiasm and positive energy; ready to walk into my new age stronger and happier than ever.
I was so off-base in my thinking.
Instead, an array of unexpected situations occurred that acted almost like a mirror: a reflection showing me who I was and what I had become. The result was stark revelations about my personality that I was not too fond of and certainly did not take too well. With each instance I felt angry, dejected, and most of all, hurt.
I cried. A lot.
But like I said before: tears help to cleanse the soul as well as the eyes.
The situations forced me to face some rather harsh realities about some of my character traits and take a long and hard look at myself. Even though I did not like what I had discovered, in the end I was grateful because had I never uncovered the bad stuff, I would not have ever had the knowledge needed to make the fixes and adjustments necessary for my personal growth.
The weekend was the absolute opposite of what I anticipated it would be, but that does not mean that it was entirely all bad. Actually, it was wonderful because of the wealth of revelations that took place—ones that probably would have never happened otherwise.
The biggest lesson that I learned overall is when it comes to self discovery, in life we are always ready and willing to welcome the positive life lessons (you know what Marvin Sapp says in his song: I’m stronger, I’m wiser, etc.) but it seems to be a much different story when the lessons are not so flattering. However, if we ever want to grow—I mean, truly grow—then we must learn to bite the bullet, and be brave enough to accept the bad truths about ourselves with the good ones. Then and only then will be in a position where we are able to work towards evolving into the best possible version of ourselves. Only then can we really reach our highest potential and become mentally, physically, spiritually and emotionally all that we are meant to be.
Have you ever had a defining moment of self discovery that didn’t turn out the way that you expected? How do you cope with learning truths about yourself that are considered less-than-flattering? Share with me below or tell me about it at: firstname.lastname@example.org.