I have a confession to make: I have become a victim of the Fall Off.
When I initially launched this site, I was confident of what I wanted its purpose to be. I had very clear goals that I wanted to accomplish both here and in the offline community as MELISASource, and I even charted out the course that I was going to take to achieve them.
Now as I get closer to crossing over the one-year mark of blogging, I looked over my past writings and noticed something awry. I was doing very well with staying on track with my goals initially, however as the months went on, I saw that I drifted further and further away from what I wanted this site to be and thus my goals as well.
How could I have not noticed this sooner??!
Oh, bother!!
Many times in life when we set goals for ourselves, we get so heavily consumed with what it will feel like at the end of the journey that we lose focus on the journey itself. This change in perspective causes us to get off course, far away from the path that we had planned to take. More often than not, by the time we ‘shake ourselves’ and realize what has happened, much time and progress has been lost.
Thus, the Fall Off.
Sometimes it can be difficult to prevent a Fall Off moment from happening to you. But the key is not prevention, but being sure that the moment is handled in the right way.
Here is an approach that you can use to deal with it:
Own up to it
The first step is admitting you have a problem – this is a statement that is heard and said many times, right? But the problem is that rarely is it actually applied. If you have a goal that you are trying to accomplish, you must be serious about it enough to not only motivate yourself to keep going, but also to correct yourself in your missteps.
Decide on it
Once you own up to the Fall Off, do not let discouragement get the best of you. Instead, decide that you will be more disciplined in ensuring that you stay on the right track. If you feel that you cannot do it alone, get an accountability partner: someone you trust who wants to see you succeed and will stand in your corner to be strong for you in your times of weakness—a person with an “outside eye” who can see you heading for Fall Off and can stop you well before it happens.
Execute
Once you have identified what is going on, take the decisions that you have made to do better and put them into action right away. Remember that time waits for no one: the sooner you pull yourself back up and on course, the easier it will be to keep going and the better off you will be for it in the end. At the moment when you achieve your goals, you will be all the more grateful for the fact that you refuse to allow dwelling on your missteps to keep you down.
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Experiencing a Fall Off moment in your life here and there is something that is normal. No matter whether it is in a professional or personal area, when you notice it happening, never be afraid to be honest with yourself about it. When you do, you place yourself in a great position to turn it around and minimize any ground lost in the journey to your goals.
You’re probably asking, “Soooooo…….what about you and your Fall Off moment?” Well, I have the approach given above in full effect even as we speak! There will be some changes coming to MELISASource.com very soon that I hope you will find to be much better – stay tuned on this journey with me!
Have you ever experienced the Fall Off? Are you good at owning up to it when it happens? What are some approaches that you use to correct it? Share with me below or tell me about it at: melisasource@yahoo.com.
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Yes indeed, I think all of us are guilty of fall off moments in our lives, but aren’t those the ones that make us get up, realize we are going hay-wire, and stand up to make changes in our lives?
I guess the same thing must have happened in your case too, thus you so well are planning to taking charge and bringing about changes on the blog. So, there’s always a lesson in disguise as I believe such fall offs teach us, which is what makes us a stronger and wiser person.
Thanks for sharing and wishing you the best with the new changes coming ahead.

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Greetings Harleena! You make a very great point: the most important part of experiencing a ‘fall-off’ moment is the lesson(s) that we learn in the process. Most times they are lessons to not only get us back on track, but also to help us grow and become better and to be more aware of our direction towards our goals and dreams. I shared my experience in hopes of encouraging someone that even though ‘fall-off’ moments are inevitable in life, we don’t have to let them get the best or most of us–we can take them, learn from them, and continue on in our journeys on the proper path. ~Thank you so much for your kind words and I truly appreciate you sharing here with me!
We are all guilty of it Melisa! I have found that reading each post and then asking myself if it fits into the goal of my blog helps me stay on track. Great advice about just owning up to it and like the proverbial horse, get back on it and start riding again in the right direction! Keep up the great work!
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Greetings Burl: It’s comforting to know that I’m not alone! -And with that you bring up a very good point: most times when we’re experiencing a Fall Off moment we develop the belief that we are the only ones going through what we are going through, or that we are the only ones who have ever done it. But the truth of the matter is exactly what you stated: that everyone has had a Fall Off moment sometime in their journey of life, some even at the very same moment that we are having it. So that’s another ‘approach’ that we can use–to remember that we are not alone, and that if others can get back on track from a Fall Off, we can too.
I truly appreciate you sharing here with me — it means a lot to me! And thank you so much for your kind words of support!
‘Fall offs’ are bound to happen, even the best of us, Makeba. I believe they come to inform us of the areas we’re most in need of improving. As we know, it’s not the falling that hurts us, but the staying there after we’ve acknowledged we have missed the mark, that does the worse number on our confidence. Another thing that would get us stuck, is to do absolutely nothing about the clues, whispers, hints, and signs – we often get right before the fall.
Great post, my friend. I believe you nailed the approach, precisely! Thanks for sharing your experience with each of us.

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Greetings Deone! You said it: staying down really does do a number on your confidence for sure–I know because that’s what I experienced firsthand in this process. If you stay down for too long, you’ll miss recognizing that you’ve fallen off in the first place. That’s why it’s so important to “jump on it” right away and recover. That wayyou don’t have to worry about being stuck for long.
Thank you so much for adding to the conversation here my Friend. I appreciate your sharing and your kind words greatly!
Oh dear, I am right there with you. I think we all go through this every now and then. You’ve outlined some excellent tips to get back on track!
I’m on this journey with you and look forward to all you bring us!
~Kesha
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Greetings Kesha: thank you so much! I wanted to share my experience 1) in hopes that I was not alone, and 2) to encourage others that if you experience a ‘fall off’ moment, it’s totally ok–all you have to do is acknowledge it, get back up and correct yourself, and keep right on going. It’s like the song says: ‘We fall down, but we get up!’
~I sincerely appreciate you sharing here with me!
I guess my “falling off” moment is keeping up with my blog. I need to just write out a schedule of topics and themes I want to stick and follow through. I get inspired by you guys at least putting out information that fits with the theme of your blog. And like you said, the key is getting back up. Thanks for sharing this.
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Greetings Val: you’re very welcome! I know exactly how you feel! Heaven knows I struggle with the ‘keeping up’ part, especially with everything else that I have happening in a course of a day!
What I am learning though is to not be so hard on myself about it as I used to–that as long as I know that I at least tried to update or if there’s a 100% valid reason as to why I didn’t or couldn’t, then it’s ok–I just have to try it again the next update time. And it is people like you who take the time to stop by let me know that you did
that inspire me to keep going. I truly appreciate you!
It’s just like the saying goes: “Get knocked down 7 times, get back up 8.” I wanted to share my story as a way of encouraging others to keep getting up.
~Thank you so much for sharing here with me!
Another great post! This is great advice and very life changing when applied. This post is right on time for me because I’m having a few “fall offs” and realize that before I can help anyone else I’d better help myself and get it together. Thank you again for always posting real stuff that is good for the souls and applicable to life!
Greetings Keinya:
I’m glad to know that you found this one to be helpful to you! You bring up a very good point and one that I had to learn the hard way myself: another way that the Fall Off can creep up on our lives is when we place our energies so much into helping others that we loose sight of taking care of ourselves. Plus, it’s just a better feeling overall that benefits everyone.
I appreciate your kind words so very much ~ I’m so grateful to you for sharing here with me!