Over the weekend I ran into an old friend that I had not seen in a long while. During our conversation of playing catch-up, I told them all about my blog: why I started it, how it’s been going so far and some of the plans that I have for it in the future. They looked confused, and as I explained further they chuckled, saying: “Why are you even doing that? It seems like nothing but a big waste of time—it doesn’t sound like it’ll ever amount to anything.” From there, they started recounting some mistakes I’ve made in the past as a way to justify their statements.
First, I stood there shocked, thinking: ‘I thought this was my friend—why would they say something like that to me??’
After the shock wore off I politely advised them that I was in error for thinking that they would understand my vision. Why? Because the vision was given to me—not them. I also let them know that my mistakes do not define me, nor will they scare me or discourage me out of pursuing my dreams.
Needless to say, our ‘reunion’ did not go well.
There will always be those folks who try to downplay your vision and make you feel incapable of fulfilling it, using the mistakes you made in the past to convince you that the things you want in life will never happen. Because they have no clear vision for their own life (or because they see the great potential of yours) they are willing to do all they can to silence your future.
You control the fulfillment of the vision that you’ve been given—no one else. Nothing anyone says to you or believes about you or your vision can ever change that. Ever.
Remember: mistakes are inevitable–what separates a person from others is the improvement made after a mistake is realized.
The importance is in seeing yourself for what you want to become and who you want to be and speaking on it boldly and proudly. Your vision—your self-perception—is the key to boosting your strength and confidence about the pursuit of what you want out of life. It will help block other’s negative attacks before they can have a chance to penetrate your mind and spirit.
So when you encounter those folks who try to downplay your vision, tell them: “Yeah, that was me—I made those mistakes in the past, but look at where I am today.” OR “Yes, that’s right—that is my vision. I can see it for myself. I am going after it no matter what and I refuse to let anything take me off my course or allow anyone to talk me out if it.”
Never allow people to make you feel small by downplaying the vision you have for your life. Keep going, keep it positive, and remember that there is nothing you have to prove to anyone else—only to yourself.
Enjoy this week’s Music Mondays selection, Here I Am Alive by Pop/Rock artist Yellowcard.
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