Music Mondays: Thanksgiving and the Misconception Of Being Blessed

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Thanksgiving is always such a special time. It is the one day out of the year that time is given to reflect and express gratitude for everything in life, big and small.

A lot of people associate having a reason to be thankful with being happy. But being thankful is not about having happiness—it is about having joy.

Confused?  Let me clarify. I want to share a statement on happiness:


“The word ‘happiness’ is derived from the word ‘happening’—meaning whatever is happening in your life is what determines your happiness. So if things are going well for you, then you’re happy. If they’re not going good, then you’re not happy. Because of this, happiness can be such an up-and-down roller coaster that one would be unwise to base their lives on it solely.”  [H.H.]


In comparison, here is a statement on joy:


“Joy is a Source of delight—of inner peace.  It is what lies underneath all emotions, no matter what happens to a person.”  [K.S.]


See, happiness is fleeting. Joy is not. And as long as you have joy, you have a great reason to be thankful.


Another misconception is you can only be thankful if you’re blessed, and that being blessed equates to success, wealth, and material possessions. 

But . . .

Being blessed is not about the superficial. It is about those gifts of life that money and status cannot buy: family, friends, health, and love. It is not about only being in a position to receive; it is also about being able to give.

Realize that there are so many things to be thankful for not just during Thanksgiving season, but every day. Never do yourself the disservice of getting so focused on emotions or “the big stuff” believed to be missing from life that you fail to see the value of the “little things.” Take a moment look around and you will see how blessed you truly are.


Enjoy this week’s Music Mondays selection, ‘Blessed’ by Neo Soul artist Jill Scott.



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  • I loved this. Never before have I considered the distinction between happiness and joy.

    I’m definitely joyful, even if there are days when I’m not happy.

    I’ll remember this on the few days here and there when happiness feels low on the list.

    • MELISASource says:

      Greetings Kymberli! I am so glad that you enjoyed this article and selection! Thank you so much for sharing here with me! 🙂

  • Brandi says:

    This is wonderfuL! Every day that I wake up, I believe it’s a blessing. People think I’m crazy, but I have joy, so not much can shake me. 🙂

    • MELISASource says:

      Greetings Brandi! Yes yes yes — you said it!! That is what I love about this song and video: Jill make sure that she emphasizes the very thing that you said! I’m so glad that you enjoyed this post and selection! Thank you so much for sharing here with me! 🙂

  • Chasing Joy says:

    I love your definition of Joy. I have been asked this before and I feel that happiness is more temporary and more external where as Joy is a permanent and more internal condition.

    • MELISASource says:

      Greetings Chasing Joy! You are absolutely right about the differences between the two. I am glad that you enjoyed this one! Thank you so much for sharing here with me! 🙂

  • Christine says:

    I absolutely love this post! It’s so very true and something everyone needs to be reminded of. Thanks for sharing!

    • MELISASource says:

      Greetings Christine! You’re so welcome! I’m glad to know that you enjoyed this one –Thank you so much for sharing here with me! 🙂

  • pammypam says:

    what an interesting argument; i’ve never thought of it that way. thank you.

    • MELISASource says:

      Greetings Pammypam! You’re very welcome — I am glad that you enjoyed this one! Thank you so much for sharing here with me! 🙂

  • Sheri says:

    I love that your perspective on being blessed includes being able to GIVE as well as receive. I think we miss that important truth too often. You, my dear, are blessed because you have given us the gift of your blog 🙂 Happy Thanksgiving!

    • MELISASource says:

      Greetings Sheri! Wow, thank you for your kind words–they mean a lot to me! 🙂 I am so glad that you enjoyed this post and selection! I truly appreciate you sharing here with me! 🙂

  • I like how you defined the two terms and the reasons for each and for the upcoming holiday. I don’t often see things that make the former English tutor in me smile, but this did.

    • MELISASource says:

      Greetings Janeane! Thank you so much–now that’s a great compliment!! 🙂 I am so glad that you enjoyed this one! Thank you so much for sharing here with me! 🙂

  • DjRelat7 says:

    I love me some Jill Scott! Great song to close my work day! Thanks!

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