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Deliverance From Being A Doormat: Reclaim Your Life With 1 Phrase

Reclaim-Your-Life-With-1-Phrase-being-a-doormat #doormat

 

Sometimes we can desire for people to love us……..to need us…….to appreciate us so badly. Sometimes we invest so much emotion and effort into getting people to see our light and reciprocate the level of energy, dedication, and action that we are giving to them that we will do anything that they want and believe anything that they say.

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But they don’t.

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We wait, and we wait, and we wait; we hope and wish and pray for it to come to pass over and over again. When we do not see results, we begin to give even more on our end. Our conscious starts to whisper that it is us: that we are the problem. It tells us we must be doing something wrong or not doing enough. So then we go into overdrive in hopes that things will change, putting aside our own needs and well-being; and disregarding the confusion, hurt, pain, and exertion that it is causing us on every level.

.Reclaim Your Life With 1 Phrase

All the while the people we are trying our very best to to please do not even view our efforts as ones that deserve acknowledgement, appreciation, praise, or even respect. Instead, they feel a sense of expectancy and entitlement that makes them believe it is okay to pressure us to do more, and feed us a continuum of lies, deception, and empty promises to be sure we stay around for their ‘use.

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This, my friends is The Doormat Syndrome: Welcome.

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Becoming a victim to being the Doormat is something that is very easy to fall into, because it is something that does not happen all at once, but instead over duration of time or small stages. And although being a Doormat is something that is easy to spot with others, it can be very difficult to recognize in ourselves.

 

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So………..if this is us, how can we make it better?

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The bad news is that the behaviors are now set, so the mindset when it comes to being a Doormat for people will be a challenge to change—for both parties. Trust me when I say that there is no communication about it that could take place without conflict, which will eventually lead to feelings of guilt and then a repeating of the same old patterns, which solves nothing.

 .Reclaim Your Life With 1 Phrase

Remember: just like the Doormat syndrome took time to develop, it will also take time to dissolve.

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BUT: There is good news

 .Reclaim Your Life With 1 Phrase

Deliverance from being the Doormat to people is possible. And the best news is it begins within.

.Reclaim Your Life With 1 Phrase

We must start with ourselves. Changing our mindset and actions (and being consistent and committed to them) will send a message to people that will speak far louder than any words you could ever say.  True deliverance is not an action, but a state of mind and a lifestyle.

 .Reclaim Your Life With 1 Phrase

Are you ready to reclaim your life? Here’s how:

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Place these words somewhere that you will see them often. Set reminders in your phone or pop-ups on your computer with these words as the message. Do whatever you need to do to remind yourself to operate in these words all of the time, every day, not matter what—or who—comes your way. I am not saying it will be an easy, but it will definitely be worth it.

 .Reclaim Your Life With 1 Phrase

In 2013 and beyond, commit yourself to deliverance from the awful Doormat syndrome. Think about it: you have gone through enough and it is time to get your life back! You can do it, and it all begins with you.

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Are you or have you ever been victim of the Doormat syndrome? What are some ways that you plan to commit yourself to reclaiming your life this year?  Share with me below or tell me about it at: melisasource@yahoo.com.

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Makeba Giles is an Inspiration, Culture, Lifestyle, and Family Blogger. She is also a Midwest Mother of four, and the Founder and Creative Director of MELISASource.com. | EMAIL: melisasource@yahoo.com

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