A few weeks ago, I shared the news in a post here that my family had suffered two unexpected deaths within two weeks of each other. I kind of left it at that, because at the time, it was still much too difficult for me to speak on or even express how I was feeling about it. As much as I tried to work through, the pain and grief became so much that I took myself away from the “websphere” for a while, not even doing any posts to this site or trying to make any updates anywhere else.
.When Grief Takes Over
In fact, the thought had seriously crossed my mind to stop altogether.
I kept asking myself over and over again, “My main goal for MELISASource is to Inspire people. How can I possibly inspire, motivate, or encourage someone else if I am feeling this low? I don’t believe I’ll ever recover from this.” Although I know that the saying goes, “The show must go on,” most days it was just flat-out impossible for me: no matter how many hours I stared at an empty piece of paper or a blank white Word screen.
Then, just when I had made my final decision to walk away from it all, the Universe spoke to me. I heard It reminding me of the fact that because this site; this “goal to inspire” was one that was far above and beyond me, that it was not my place to walk away whenever I chose to—and certainly not just because I am going through storms in my life. Instead of trying to deal with stuff on my own, I am commissioned to use my experiences as a source to help others who may be going through similar losses in their lives.
It was a hard thing to hear, but I got it.
So…..here I am.
I am here in this moment not saying that I am completely over the untimely and tragic deaths of my niece and my nephew. I am here in this moment as a witness that no matter what you are dealing with in your life right now—no matter how painful it is or how hard it seems to bear—you can get through it. There is strength and healing in pressing on. Stay connected to the Voice within, and never ever convince yourself that the situation is hopeless. Whatever you do, don’t let your trials keep you down.
When things get rough in your life, I want you to tell yourself this statement:
“Trials don’t make me…..nor can they break me.”
When Grief Takes Over.
Cry. Grieve. Let it out. –Then listen to the Voice within. Let it empower you to rise, to stand, and to fight on.
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I am saddened to read about your lost here, Makeba. I can only imagine what you and your family must be going through during what could only seem as a difficult time. Life tends to happen to each of us without much warning, and whenever it does, it is always a challenge trying to get the lesson from what has occurred. Oftentimes, it is months, sometimes years, before we can even adjust our sails to the overpowering waves that would have taken over taken us had we not clung to our faith in knowing that this too shall pass. Come what may it is that faith that will sustain us to go through the grief we will bare in this life experience. You are absolutely right in what you said about going within to hear what our inner voice has to say about the matter. It is there that the Higher Power speaks in and through us, providing us with just the comfort we are in need of during such difficult times. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. May the Creator come in like a flood, being a Comforter to each of you doing this moment of bereavement. My deepest condolences to you all. Blessings beloved.
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