What To Do When Someone Says You’ve Changed

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Makeba Giles

Makeba Giles

Makeba Giles is an Health, Family, and Lifestyle Blogger. She is also a Midwest Mother of four, and the Founder and Creative Director of MELISASource.com. |

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Makeba Giles

It is something that a lot of people struggle with every day. Venturing off into a new dream or finally begin following a long-felt passion, and as progression begins in the journey, the stretching does follows suit.

Everywhere you look, people are reaching, and stretching into what is their new found identities, roles, and responsibilities. All the while, they are being pulled in the opposite direction by family members, friends, and all of those who knew them ‘way back when.’ In the pulling, they are constantly reminded of who they were, what they were, and what they used to do.

What To Do When Someone Says You’ve Changed

Then the dreaded statement comes from their mouths:  “You’ve changed.”

What To Do When Someone Says You’ve Changed

This often results in a struggle to subconsciously feel the need to prove something—to behave or otherwise respond in a confirming way. It becomes a must to prove they are still the same person and that they haven’t changed.

What To Do When Someone Says You’ve Changed

But see, that is where the problem lies. –They have changed.

What To Do When Someone Says You’ve Changed 

Does this sound like you or something you’re going through? If so, then read on:

 What To Do When Someone Says You’ve Changed

In life, change is constant, and growth is essential. Without it, there would be no evolution in the world. None of the great visionaries, personalities and enterprises that we have all come to love would ever exist. Those people had to go through the same growing pains, the same battle. And because they made a commitment to let themselves go and press forward into their new identities, they fulfilled their destinies.What To Do When Someone Says You’ve Changed 

So I ask you: are you still holding on to your old self? And if so, why? If you are striving to reach a dream or a goal, the only way to achieve it—just like all of the great ones before you—is to let yourself—the old you—go. Get it in your mind that it is perfectly okay to hear, see, believe, and behave differently as you travel along on the path to achieving your dreams and goals. In fact, it is one of the tell-tale sign of true personal growth.

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If you are stretching yourself between ‘how it used to be’ and ‘how it is,’ there is no better time than now to put it to an end. Release the old you to the wind! If those around you cannot accept you as you are now, release them, too!! Never be ashamed of your progression, and keep proudly moving forward into all that you are striving to be!

What To Do When Someone Says You’ve Changed

And the next time someone says, “You’ve changed” respond like this:

“Hey: it is what it is.”

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 What To Do When Someone Says You’ve Changed

Have you ever found yourself being stretched between your past and your present? Have people ever told you that you’ve changed? How did you deal with it? If you’re still struggling with it, are you now ready to let it go? Share with me below or tell me about it at: melisasource@yahoo.com.

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What To Do When Someone Says You’ve Changed

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  • I was just talking to someone about this last night. Getting to points in your relationship where you’ve not outgrown them but have so many new experiences in your life shaping and molding you into someone new. You’ve taken leaps and bounds to go after your dreams, whether its marriage or children, or writing a book and sometimes friends or people in your life assume that you can still do what you were doing when you didn’t have those new things in your life. Its hard to make someone understand that you’ve changed because you wanted to. I don’t think you ever have to explain why. Like you say it is what it is. If they can’t get on board with your changes then it is time to let them go. You can love them still but from afar. If you decided to hold onto your past while touching the present, you’ll be forever conflicted. Let your soul be at peace. Even if that means letting go.